January 5th, 2010 Posted in Daily News Post | 52 Comments »
After the worst day that I’ve seen, Chloe and Dana were able to sleep pretty well until about 5:30 this morning. Sandy stood the ugly watch all night. Then things started happening. Chloe just couldn’t get comfortable with her breathing. It was suction after suction and, at one point, she was getting pretty distressed. The trach she has in now is a little bit smaller in diameter and she is producing quite a bit of gunk. The two things can work against each other.
She went through PT/OT and speech today and it was intense. She was pretty wiped out by the time she returned to the room. She wasn’t able to see her computer keyboard enough today to us it during speech. Her eyes have been jumping all day. Probably a bit of fatigue and maybe some due to yesterday. At noon I arrived to a roomful of sleeping people. I spent the next hour quietly preparing for the 1:30 weekly meeting.
At the meeting we discussed the previous day and how to prevent a repeat of the horror we faced. It was agreed that, at the very least, Dr. Cyler would be there to do the next trach. He may even take a look at the vocal cords at the same time. Also mentioned was… discharge plans. Dana froze. The first thing out of her mouth, as she started to really choke up, was “I can’t take care of her at home.” There is no way if we have to bring her home with a ventilator and all the other requirements of same, that we could take care of her and have any life at all. It just wouldn’t happen.
What do we do then? We focus on Chloe going home well and able to take care of herself. It’s what we all want so why not make it a reality. The other reality, however, is that insurance is running thin for rehab. We have until the end of the month with this insurance company. It will then be up to SSI if Dana qualifies and it can get pushed through in time.
We ran over to SSI today to see about signing her up to get state insurance. That would enable us to keep Chloe in rehab until she doesn’t need it anymore. So if anyone out there has contacts in high places in SSI we need this pushed through.
It was an interesting time at the SSI office waiting room. I had to step out to handle something with Dana’s unemployment on my cell phone. The guard came out into the alcove with me to receive a call. Just then I noticed a woman with four small kids go into the bathroom and the next thing I saw was Dana jumping up, banging on the door and yelling that she is beating her kids. She couldn’t get into the bathroom to stop it but she sure made enough noise that the door opened and she stopped the abuse. Dana just said “Please don’t beat him.” About that time the guard reached her and wanted to know what she had seen. He needed an eyewitness to do anything. Unfortunately Dana just heard the abuse. When the woman came out Dana, being the Dana she is, offered to play with her kids so they would be out of her hair until they left. She wasn’t taken up on the offer.
Dana later said she often wondered if she would be the one person to act in this type of situation. Would she be the one who played the fool amongst others in order to save a kid. She answered that today and very well. No one else got involved although the blows were very audible in the waiting room. Neither the guard nor I could hear them where we were but we sure heard Dana.
Later the guard advised us that he had flagged their account as possible child abuse and that someone would certainly look into it. It was some gratification after that ordeal. Dana’s on the edge so anyone stepping over a boundary or value better be ready to suffer the consequences.
Back at the hospital Chloe was able to enjoy Dawn and her guitar. Dawn sings her some great songs. Another visitor was Jake the golden retriever and Patty. This is a visit that ALWAYS lights her up.
One very good thing about the human body and mind is that it tends to protect us from very unpleasant events. Chloe can’t remember anything about the trauma of the afternoon yesterday. This is such a blessing.
An email came to me early this morning from Dana. It seems Colin is going into the solo singing circle. www.singingplace.com features Colin singing, “I’m Yours”. It’s a fun watch and a hard one to sing all by yourself. Kudos to Colin for putting himself out there like that.
The word came down from Dr. Shih this after noon that Chloe would be allowed to suck on a lollypop as long as she didn’t bite it. So, Dana and I stopped at Walgreens and found one of only two packs of Dumb Dumb’s pops, the ones she requested. They usually don’t carry these except at Halloween. So there’s another blockade that Chloe knocked down.
Everyone is winding down from the day now. Chloe has her Ipod, and the rest of us are on our laptops. The movie night was fun tonight with Dana and Chloe in bed together. Chloe had her sucker and Dana had her Hot Tamales. We took pictures and will try to get them on the blog soon.
The mind tends to fade after a huge lack of sleep so these blogs are getting a bit out of order and I’m sure I’m forgetting things. It’s a challenge that seems to be a low priority right now.
Thanks for all the comments on the blog and facebook. They are fun and uplifting.
Be well,
Ron